Why Should I Forgive? The Birth of a New Year’s Resolution.

I’ve been asked why I’m passionate about teaching forgiveness. It’s because all religious, spiritual and metaphysical roads I’ve traveled have led me here, to this one Truth borrowed from A Course In Miracles: I forgive others for my own peace of mind.

In my late twenties I read the Bible, the Old and New Testament, for the first time. Although I was impressed with the transformation of God’s consciousness from the Old Testament God of anger, judgment, vengeance and war to the New Testament God of peace, love, acceptance, charity and forgiveness, I was more impressed with the implications of several thought-provoking Biblical comments:

(1) From the Book of Matthew: He replied, “Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

If the above-passage is an accurate quote from Jesus of the Christ, that’s pretty awesome and powerful. “Nothing will be impossible for you.” That’s not a vague and ambiguous assertion. That’s a description of how Reality Manifestation works. That’s the Secret right there. That’s the Law of Attraction, the Law of Abundance. The power of the Mind to transcend time and transform space, and thereby create the reality of one’s choosing! “Nothing will be impossible for you.” Wow. I like the sound of that. And I find it hard to believe that Jesus of the Christ was exaggerating. His word was his bond.

(2) From the Book of Mark: “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” I don’t take the word “rich” literally here. I believe what was meant instead of rich is the word greedy. “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a greedy man to enter the kingdom of God.”

Greed is of the ego. Greed is about competition and separation rather than cooperation and unity. Greed is about judgment, aggression and unforgiveness, not acceptance, tolerance and harmony. Greed is not of God and if you really want to get to God and Heaven and the Garden of Eden, or whatever else you understand to be a place of eternal, unconditional peace, compassion and joy, then be of Service to Others. Help others. If you’ve got two coats, give one away to a needy brother.

3) From the Book of Matthew: “Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.”

Meek doesn’t mean weak. Meek doesn’t mean wimpy. Meek doesn’t mean sucker or chump. Meek means those who are gentle, those who are non-violent, those who are compassionate, those who are accepting of others, those who are unconditionally forgiving. “Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.” The implication of this being that those who seek peace through violence and murder are not blessed and will inherit the wind.

4) From the book of Matthew: “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”  This is very clear. The message is basically that if you walk a righteous, honest and forgiving path, you will get the life that you want. You’ll get the goodies. First be a person of integrity. First be of service to others. First let go of anger, fear, judgment and attack. First forgive. And then “all these things will be added to you.” In other words: You win. You Forgive To Win!

5) From the Book of John: “I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father.” In other words, All these things that I have done, you can do and more if you have faith in me, if you follow my principles of forgiveness, acceptance, and love. That’s the ticket. There’s the message again: Want to do 22 impossible things before breakfast? First seek the kingdom of heaven. First be a person of honor. And then with your faith you’ll move mountains, and all things will come to you.

Why? Because when we get our mind focused on Forgiveness, Acceptance and Love, this removes the obstacles to the natural flow of abundance and prosperity which is available in infinite amounts to everyone.

So that’s my New Year’s resolution:  To first seek the kingdom of heaven. To first be a person of honor. To forgive. To accept. To love. As best I can. As unconditionally as I can. Wherever I am. Without exceptions. Without expectations. Without the need for appreciation or acknowledgment.

To have forgiveness, teach forgiveness to learn it.

4 thoughts on “Why Should I Forgive? The Birth of a New Year’s Resolution.

  1. Bob Turrou

    Thanks, Walter.

    Sorry for the long comment…

    I’m going to copy this one and read it over. It sounds like your journey and mine have been similar in nature…they rhyme anyway. But it was your book Forgive To Win that was what I needed to bring everything together, probably because I was ready, searching and accepting. After I read your book and started doing it as you suggested, I relistened to The Power CDs by Rhonda Byrne, The Power being Love, and boy, did it make so much more sense the “second time around!”

    And then I started reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and read it through and answered most of the questions at the end of the chapters. Everything Stephen Covey says makes so much more sense after having read your book.

    One of the Bible quotes that I like, that my mother used to quote to my sisters and me was, “All things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to His purpose.” I think that when you love and forgive others (and thus yourself), you are loving God and you are actually loving and honoring who we really are, the creations of God, created in His Image. And wasn’t it Jesus Who said, “God is Love”?

    So, we don’t have to worry and be afraid that our needs and desires will be taken care of if we just love and forgive others, with no agenda but to be truly helpful, and the Universe will take care of our needs, We do, however, need to feel deserving and be open and aware of our surroundings and take advantage of the opportunities that are sent our way, being wise in our decisions of what we accept.

    Here’s a tiny example of something that happened recently in my life concerning being provided for, You may call it a coincidence, but anymore, I don’t believe in coincidences. I have two outdoor cats that I put in a enclosed, covered cage at night to protect them from coyotes, but it gets cold outside in Colorado. I wanted to get a heating pad make for pets to help keep them warm, but I didn’t want to spend the money at the time. I am a veterinarian, and one of my clients who had lost their cat came in a couple of weeks ago with not one, but 2 brand new, heating pads that he couldn’t return and had no need of since his cat had died, and he asked that I give them to someone who could use them. Well…I had a need and could definitely use them, so I decided that they were a gift from the Universe sent to keep my cats warm. They are very appreciative and so am I. I took it as a sign that if I “seek the Kingdom of God and His righteouness” that all of my needs and desires will be taken care of in perfect timing. Oh, yeah, in the Bible it says that the Kingdom of God is in you, right? But in another place Jesus is said to have said that you can take away the “in.” The Kingdom of God IS you. Try thinking about that!

    1. Walter E. Jacobson

      hi, bob
      thank you for taking the time to write a wonderful comment that complements my blog post.
      “The kingdom of God is you.” Thanks for the reminder.


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