If You Can’t Say Something Nice, You’re Part Of The Problem

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” used to be a popular expression. It has been replaced by: “If you can’t say something horribly judgmental and cruel, try harder.” It’s bad. We are so caught up in our judgment and our rage, being verbally abusive towards those who disagree with us has become our reason for living, our daily pride. We need to stop it and start being compassionate and generous, even towards those we disagree with and detest.

2 thoughts on “If You Can’t Say Something Nice, You’re Part Of The Problem

  1. Sharon Karp

    “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all” is as archaic in today’s society as high button shoes that are ugly! In today’s world, the more destructive things that you say, the more hurtful and deprecating, the better. The theory is that the more you can verbally and pictorally slaughter someone and destroy their reputation, the more power to you. Better yet, put it out there in Instagram, on your phone and let it go viral. How many impressionable teen-agers have committed suicide because of horrible things that others have said about them, have bullied them and have driven them to taking their own lives. It’s an epidemic! And, it’s criminal.

    Everyone likes gossip, true. People somehow enjoy saying mean and critical things about others because it helps raise their own self-esteem. We enjoy, to some degree, in finding fault. But today, somehow, it’s gotten out of control with people who disagree with others verbalizing their opinions with violence and blatant disregard for anyone else. It’s become a sport and with the current technology, it’s far reaching.

    Until we can “tame the technological beast” as well as our own frustrations and rage, then we are a society doomed to hell. No one wants to say nice things or be kind or respect the opinions of others even though they differ. Will it ever revert? No, because bad behavior is allowed, encouraged, rewarded and sanctioned.

    The good old days of niceness and decorum? Sadly, dead and buried.


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