See The Good In Others Despite How They’re Behaving and Feel Joyous In The Process

November 28th, 2017

When we change our perspective from anger, resentment and harsh judgment to compassion, non-judgment, empathy and forgiveness, we release a tremendous amount of negative, dark energy within ourselves and feel not only at peace, but joyous as well. It is a miraculous transformation that starts with our willingness to choose another way of looking at people, appreciating that most people behave badly not because they are evil and sadistic and nasty but because they are full of fear, guilt and self-loathing. Many of us cannot grasp this concept and want to hang onto our harsh condemnation of others, but when we do this, we are actually hurting ourselves, depriving ourselves of inner peace and joy. This process does not let people off the hook so to speak. It doesn’t mean people shouldn’t be held accountable for their actions. It simply means we rise above the battlefield of fear, hate and aggression, and are then able to be in the Now and embrace the Joy and Happiness that is our natural state of mind and our birthright.


Start Your New Year’s Day Resolutions TODAY!

November 27th, 2017

Why not start your New Year’s Day Resolutions today instead of waiting till New Year’s Day to make your list, do the things on your list for 3 days and then quit? Why not wake up every morning and make a New Day’s Resolution to take some action that will propel your life forward, that will make your life better in some way, or make a resolution to stop doing something that is self-destructive and self-sabotaging of your success? Every morning make the commitment to be proactive, to make wise choices, to make amends, to be more loving and forgiving, to be more industrious and committed. Whatever it might be that you want to change: Don’t wait till New Year’s Day and make a resolution ritual you won’t keep. Do it now! DO IT TODAY! Put a post-it note on your bathroom mirror to remind yourself of your daily resolutions. Stick with them. And watch your world get better.


Beware of Your “Outer Critics” As Well as Your Inner Critic

November 26th, 2017

Besides learning how to neutralize our Inner Critic who tells us that we’re worthless and not good enough, and that nothing’s going to work out so why bother trying, best we learn how to recognize and neutralize those people in our lives who subtly try to sabotage our efforts to improve ourselves and manifest our dreams.


Why Do You Dislike Stuff People Post On The Internet?

November 24th, 2017

Most of the time it makes sense to me why some people dislike what people post. But a few weeks ago I posted two videos and one person disliked each of them, which completely baffled me since one was a suggestion to take a day off from attacking people on the internet, and the other was about the secret to happiness being the Golden Rule of treating people as you would like to be treated. It must be related to strong internal bias that people have which causes them to resist and resent things at a default level before actually thinking them through because, in these cases, I was basically promoting peace and love, and I don’t see why anybody would be against practicing those things in their lives. What do you think?


Thanksgiving Shouldn’t Be About Fighting With Our Family Members

November 23rd, 2017

These days we seem to gather around the Thanksgiving table and instead of giving thanks for our family and our blessings, many of us are fighting with each other and condemning each other for having different political ideologies. Maybe we should re-think this and LOVE YE ONE ANOTHER. Our problems didn’t start with Donald Trump being elected president and they won’t end after he is gone. We have serious ideological differences that need to be resolved peacefully and compassionately. Hold that thought and hug your loved ones. Put aside your judgment for at least one day.


Some People Think Too Much. Some People Don’t Think Enough.

November 22nd, 2017

Some people are very sure of themselves and believe that everything they think makes sense and that the first thing that pops into their head is correct and should be expressed in some way. Other people are insecure about their thoughts and tend to over-analyze their thoughts, oftentimes to the point of experiencing great anxiety which prevents them from taking appropriate action. Where do you fall on the spectrum? Think about it.


Do You Have A Fear Of Failure?

November 21st, 2017

Many of us have a fear of failure. We stay in our comfort zone where we feel safe, secure, confident and comfortable. And that’s fine. But if we want more than what we’ve got, we need to be willing to push our boundaries and move out of that comfort zone. We have to be willing to risk failure, disappointment, shame, rejection, disapproval, etc. if we want to succeed. There’s no other way around it. Success comes to those who are bold and push forward despite their fear of failure. Best we go after our dreams, hope for the best and accept what comes. The best part of challenging our fear and going after our dreams is that if we succeed it can be a wonderful journey, but if we don’t succeed at least we’ll never regret having given it our best shot.


Do You Communicate Honestly and Effectively?

November 20th, 2017

Most people, when asked a question that they perceive is an attack of some sort, tend to pivot, deflect, change the subject, and attack back by asking a question or raising an issue to point out a flaw in the other person, rather than answer the question. This is a mistake in political discourse and in personal relationships discourse as well. It is best to answer the charge, regardless of how uncomfortable it may feel, and then challenge the other person with your position on some other matter that you feel you have the high ground on. Take responsibility first. Answer their question first, as honestly as you can. And then challenge them with your position if you wish.


It’s Not Enough To Expose Sexual Predators. We Need To Expose All Bad Behaviors

November 19th, 2017

It’s good that our society is exposing the sexual predators but it’s not enough. The next step is to be whistleblowers speaking about and exposing those people in power, whether they be in the entertainment field, the media, politics or business. If there are corrupt people who are liars and thieves, breaking the law and doing unethical things, it is our responsibility to expose them and make them accountable for their bad behavior just as we are doing now with sexual predators. We need to clean up the entire global swamp. It doesn’t matter if they are celebrities, pundits or politicians that we like or who agree with our ideologies, we need to put our personal preferences aside and stick to one rule: if what someone is doing is wrong, unethical, or illegal, we need to speak up and force them to face the music.


The Secret To Happiness? The Golden Rule

November 13th, 2017

Treat others as you would like to be treated. Give others the benefit of the doubt. Don’t assume the worst. Be compassionate. Be generous. Be supportive. Be forgiving. And then watch yourself become happier.


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