It’s important to explain to your children the things you want them to learn so they can lead a productive, healthy and happy life when they grow up. But when they’re young and not motivated to apply the things you’ve explained to them, setting boundaries with them and consequences for unwanted behaviors is an important training tool.
Some people believe there is no point in being here. It’s all ashes to ashes and dust to dust. End of story. This makes no sense to me. But life doesn’t need to make sense. It could be totally meaningless. We evolved from an ameba, we crawled out of the swamp, and soon we’ll be having moon rides thanks to Elon Musk. Or we’re here for a reason. To evolve our consciousness.
Oftentimes, we get what we believe is a brilliant idea and then we impulsively put it into action without considering all the possible consequences, some of which might not be so brilliant. Best that we look before we leap.
There are many things that can cause us to be irritable: Low blood sugar. Stress. Chronic pain. Depression, Anxiety. Our need to be in control. And many other things. When we are irritable, we tend to take it out on others and this abuse can lead to relationships failing. Consequently, it behooves us to recognize when we are irritable and do the best we can to address the causes and control our irritation so it does not leak out onto other people.
Most people who get into arguments on social media don’t, in my opinion, want an honest debate. They aren’t interested in changing their mind. They are interested in changing your mind. They aren’t interested in an alternative perspective that might be valid. They want to make their point, regardless of the issue being discussed, that they’re right and you’re a moron. Technology is a double-edged sword. It enables us to communicate with each other like never before. But if we don’t remember our humanity, if we don’t grow up, it’s going to get even uglier than it currently is out there. Extreme shaming, bullying, profanity, hate and rage on the internet will lead to physical aggression and violence. Next time you want to rip someone a new one on your social media, try to remember the Golden Rule and treat them as you wish to be treated.
We have a choice to see the worst in people or see the best in people. We have a choice to demonize them or humanize them. We have a choice to respond to the good, bad and ugly in this world with love or fear. With love or harsh judgment, anger and aggression. When we choose Love it increases our potential for inner peace and happiness, and it moves the collective consciousness of the world towards peace, cooperation and happiness as well.
It is very common for people to set boundaries with others. What is equally common is people not respecting those boundaries. This is a big mistake. Despite our need for closure, for resolving conflicts immediately, it is best that we accept the boundaries others place upon us if we want our relationships to thrive, because when we breach boundaries set by others it creates resentments and hostilities that often lead to the total breakdown of those relationships.
“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” used to be a popular expression. It has been replaced by: “If you can’t say something horribly judgmental and cruel, try harder.” It’s bad. We are so caught up in our judgment and our rage, being verbally abusive towards those who disagree with us has become our reason for living, our daily pride. We need to stop it and start being compassionate and generous, even towards those we disagree with and detest.
If you have something you want to say to someone, whether it’s expressing your love for them or telling them something you’ve wanted to share with them but have been reluctant to, say it now. Don’t wait for the right time because the right time may never happen. You may die unexpectedly. So might the other person. So say it now. Do it now. Be here now.