If You Can’t Say Something Nice, You’re Part Of The Problem

February 1st, 2017

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” used to be a popular expression. It has been replaced by: “If you can’t say something horribly judgmental and cruel, try harder.” It’s bad. We are so caught up in our judgment and our rage, being verbally abusive towards those who disagree with us has become our reason for living, our daily pride. We need to stop it and start being compassionate and generous, even towards those we disagree with and detest.


Don’t Wait Till It’s Too Late To Express Your Love To People

January 29th, 2017

If you have something you want to say to someone, whether it’s expressing your love for them or telling them something you’ve wanted to share with them but have been reluctant to, say it now. Don’t wait for the right time because the right time may never happen. You may die unexpectedly. So might the other person. So say it now. Do it now. Be here now.


Don’t Let Down Your Guard When You’re Trying To Effect Change

January 28th, 2017

Whether we are trying to repair a relationship, or improve ourselves, or succeed at something great, it is critical that we don’t get complacent as we start to see change and progress. It is critical that we not let down our guard, that we are vigilant every moment, that we are practicing our new tools and skills every moment, because if we assume we’ve locked in the changes when we haven’t actually given it enough time, we are likely to regress and slip back into old patterns of self-sabotage and failure.


Forget About Gun Violence. Sugar Will Kill You.

January 4th, 2017

Sugar kills more people than guns. It will increase your chances of getting diabetes, obesity, heart attacks and strokes. It is a major cause of inflammation which leads to a variety of other illnesses. A hot fudge sundae may put a smile on your face. But it’ll also put one more nail in your coffin. You are what you eat isn’t just a fun catch phrase. With our food we either strengthen and vitalize ourselves or wear ourselves out and get a front row ticket to an early grave. So I ask you: Got sugar?


Meatballs. Bill Murray. It Just Doesn’t Matter. Be Your Own Hero

January 3rd, 2017

In the movie, Meatballs, Bill Murray is coaching a summer camp softball team. Just prior to the final game between his team of nerds and the super-jocks, Bill gives his team a pep talk, reminding them that whether they win or lose, it just doesn’t matter. What does matter is showing up and doing the best you can. What does matter is stepping up to the plate and taking your best shot. What does matter is not letting your fear define you.


We Are The World. We Are The Wackos.

January 2nd, 2017

We used to go to the movies to see weird and outrageous wackos. Now all we need to do is go online, search for any topic, and we’re sure to find someone spewing hate about it or doing something super freaky associated with it. It’s all incredibly entertaining, even the horrifying stuff. Unfortunately, the quantity and frequency of our collective insanity is increasing exponentially. It’s like we’re on an amusement park ride that has no brakes and is about to head over a cliff. Unless we find our moral compass, re-invest in The Golden Rule, consistently and without exception treat others as we wish to be treated, and make this one behavior our top priority, the apocalypse or armageddon we will eventually experience will be the result of our fear, our rage and our confusion, and not what God, Nature or Bad Luck has wrought.


The Butterfly Effect and New Year’s Resolutions

January 1st, 2017

The Butterfly Effect states that small causes can have large effects. A butterfly flapping its wings in New Jersey can affect the weather in Siberia. If that’s the case, imagine what each of us can do to change the world by changing our mind, by softening our heart, by engaging in estimable acts of kindness, by accepting, forgiving and loving others, by treating others as we wish to be treated. Let’s make these behaviors our New Year’s Resolutions. Let’s flap our wings with love and watch our world get better.


If Your Wife Divorces you, Don’t Be A Turd In The Punchbowl

December 31st, 2016

Just because your wife divorces you and you are angry at her and want her to feel the pain that you are feeling doesn’t mean you should act out by doing mean, spiteful things to punish and hurt her. Not cool. Particularly if you have children and use them as weapons against your wife. Try to find a way to dissolve the relationship without bitterness, animosity and vengeance. Try to find a way to remember the love that once was rather than all the awful things that you did to each other. Try to behave in ways that will bring peace and joy to all involved parties as best as possible.


Rules Of Engagement – How To Behave In Arguments

December 21st, 2016

Most relationships fail because one or both partners have poor communication skills. Issues are never adequately resolved, resentments build up over time, and eventually one of the two partners finally accepts the fact that the relationship is just not going to work and they exit stage left. Or they stay together in a love-hate relationship, longing for something better but not believing it’s possible. Guess what? It is possible. Both of those scenarios of failed relationships are unnecessary.There are techniques that can be learned as to how to communicate effectively, how to navigate arguments in a healthy way, and how to resolve conflicts and negotiate differences so everyone’s needs are met and no one is diminished in the process. Why settle for anything less than a loving, satisfying, sustainable relationship? You deserve it and you can make it happen.


Hypocrisy and Double Standards Are The New Truth

December 19th, 2016

Being righteously indignant and outraged by bad behavior in others, while turning a blind eye to the bad behavior in ourselves and those we support is very common these days, and is probably the leading cause of the extreme division in our country today. We need to have the courage to acknowledge the ugly truth in ourselves if we are going to point the finger at others. Judging and attacking other people for things we have been guilty of in the past or are guilty of now is not a good thing for society or our souls. We need to be accountable to the Truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. We need to practice what we preach. We need to treat others as we wish to be treated.


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