My book, “Forgive To Win! – Create The Life You Want” is about utilizing spiritual principles and cognitive techniques to eliminate judgments and resentments, eliminate guilt, shame and self-loathing, increase self-esteem — and in so doing — decrease self-sabotaging behaviors getting in the way of one’s happiness, physical well-being and material success. “Forgive To Win!” is available in paperback, in a Kindle version and now in an audio book version available at Amazon, iTunes and audible.com: http://bit.ly/19cmjnN

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The best solution for people with difficulty managing mood swings, anxieties, and impulsivities is not a pill. It’s the power of their thoughts harnessed effectively with the goal of maximizing positive outcomes in all aspects of their lives.

With the proper set of psychological tools, one can learn to stabilize emotional states amidst stress and chaos, navigate difficulties and obstacles in one’s life path, effectively communicate with others and strengthen relationships, and eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors.

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What if it were that simple? What if you could do that right now? And every now after now?

Would it be worth what you would have to give up for it? Your drama. Your pain. Your victimhood. Your judgments. Your ego.

Be not afraid. Choose love now. Choose joy now. Regardless of the chaos swirling around you.

Do it now and experience eternity.

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A former patient of mine thanked me recently for helping her develop tools to communicate more effectively with her husband and resolve the difficulties in their relationship. She mentioned that they still have their ups and downs, but she is able to effectively navigate the rough waters when they occur. She then shared this story that had happened a few days earlier:

I was walking on the street in the rain, contemplating an argument I had just had with my husband, trying to sort it all out and find resolution and peace.

The gutter next to me was full of leaves, blocking water from flowing into the drain. It made me think of love and obstacles in its way, how love can be blocked. I thought of the water as love and leaves as baggage keeping it from flowing its course.

As I was walking, the rain began to get heavier. Then I heard something… water running next to me… I looked… and I saw all the leaves being carried by the influx of water. The blockage had broken and the water was running free.

I stood still and understood. Love is like that water. With too little, it gets caught up in baggage, but if you give it more, you give it power to flow. I knew what I needed to do to resolve the problem with my husband. It worked.

Love never fails.

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“Accentuate the positive” is more than a catchy cliche or song lyric. It is wisdom. It is therapeutic. It is self-actualizing. It contributes substantially to the foundation of one’s happiness and success.

A corollary of this: As best you can, turn every negative into a positive. As best you can, eliminate negative words from your vocabulary. Rather than saying “Don’t…”, find a way to express the same core message you desire by saying “Do…”. When we re-frame our messages in this way, they are more likely to be heard.

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Gratitude is a valuable supplement to the Forgiveness Diet. As we maintain a focus on what we have to be grateful for, rather than what we lack or how we’ve been victimized, it makes it easier for us to be kind and generous to others and to forgive those who have hurt us. For more info: Check out the Amazon Best Seller, Forgive To Win! by psychiatrist and forgiveness expert, Walter E Jacobson, MD: Forgive To Win!

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Affirmations are a valuable supplement in the Forgiveness Diet to help eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors getting in the way of success. For more information, read the Amazon Best Seller, Forgive To Win!, by psychiatrist and forgiveness expert, Walter E Jacobson, MD.

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The Forgiveness Diet is a 90-day program of thoughts, actions and exercises, all designed to reprogram your mind to eliminate guilt, shame and self loathing getting in the way of one’s happiness, physical well being and materials success. It’s not complicated and it works. Check it out in the Amazon best seller, Forgive To Win!, by forgiveness expert Walter E Jacobson, MD. Forgive To Win!

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Check out my radio interview I did yesterday on the Dr. Don Show about Forgive To Win! and the Forgiveness Diet: http://bullheadurgentcare.com/archives/playfiles/06052012p.html

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