Affirmations are a valuable supplement in the Forgiveness Diet to help eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors getting in the way of success. For more information, read the Amazon Best Seller, Forgive To Win!, by psychiatrist and forgiveness expert, Walter E Jacobson, MD.

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The world is having a nervous breakdown and everybody is pointing the finger at somebody else to blame for the hatred, the fear, the prejudice, the aggression, the wars, the terrorist actions, etc. On one level, this may seem appropriate. But at a deeper level of Truth, we are all to blame. We are all guilty. Our own judgments, resentments, grievances, jealousies, intolerance and unwillingness to forgive are the root cause of all the troubles in the world. If each of us were to get our own house in order and eliminate these attitudes, the entire world would start to heal and prosper. Forgive To Win!

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Anger is an extremely self-destructive emotion. It causes us to stay stuck in grievance, resentment, judgment and unforgiveness. Anger hurts us physically as well as emotionally. Anger has very limited redemptive value as a form of communication. Forgiveness, the antidote to anger, can pave the way for happiness, inner peace and material success. For more information, read the Amazon Best Seller, Forgive To Win!, written by forgiveness expert Walter E Jacobson, MD: Forgive To Win!

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Really cool spreecast I recorded with Dr. Aymee Coget. We talked about forgiveness, happiness, success, belief systems, ego, Forgive To Win! It’s about 35 minutes long but the time flies by. A lot of good information and passion. Check it out! Share it with a friend.

Forgive and Succeed in Life – How to be Happy with Dr Aymee

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The best way to overcome feelings related to betrayal is to recognize that harboring negative feelings towards others, regardless of how they have behaved, is a betrayal of yourself, your Higher Self, your Spirit, your Soul. It is our mission here to discover the meaning and power of love and we do that by letting go of judgment and anger, replacing them with acceptance and forgiveness. Mourn the loss of a relationship damaged by betrayal, release the anger, the resentment, the desire for vengeance, find a way to forgive for your own peace of mind. http://forgivetowin.com

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It’s not easy to forgive. Many of us wonder why we should even bother. Many of us are so filled with rage and indignation over all the terrorism, victimization and attack all around us, the thought of turning the other cheek, acceptance and forgiveness is ludicrous. And anyone preaching such a position in these turbulent times must be living in a Mary Poppins universe, out of touch with the reality of 21st century mayhem… I understand. And I’m here to say that the point of preaching forgiveness, acceptance and love amidst all the aggression, chaos and confusion is simply to remind all of us, myself included, that those ideals are a place we should try to get to… someday…. regardless of how insane or difficult the premise of unconditional acceptance, forgiveness and love may presently seem to be.

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Most of us don’t get what we want in our lives because we sabotage ourselves: We procrastinate. We resist. We don’t follow through. We don’t do the things that we know are in our best interests. The end result is a life of unfulfillment and disappointment. It doesn’t have to be that way. When we eliminate the guilt, shame, and self-loathing deeply-embedded in our unconscious mind which generate our self-destructive, self-defeating behaviors, our world changes for the better: We start attracting people and circumstances that cooperate with our goals and propel us towards the manifestation of all our hopes and dreams. The way to eliminate our guilt, shame, and self-loathing is to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves. The way to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves is to esteem and forgive others. Forgive To Win!’s Forgiveness Diet is a structured program that teaches us how to do this. It’s not complicated. And it works! By consistently practicing a daily regimen of thoughts, actions and exercises devoted to accepting, forgiving and being of service to others, our self-esteem increases, our self-sabotaging behaviors decrease, and we experience greater opportunities and more positive outcomes in all realms of our lives.

Testimonials:

“Forgive to Win! is one of the most to the point and take responsibility books I’ve read. There is a purpose to every word and it hits you and uplifts you at the same time -and it’s a quick read. Forgiveness has many nuances, yet at the core “Forgive to Win” allows you to feel pain and hurt, yet that we can take ownership of what comes next and choose to move forward. It is a choice that has literally changed my life’s direction. I used to think artists, and writers, and actors etc. were the people I said “lived on the other side of the line.” I was afraid to step over it. At 52 I am now a selling pop photoartist and about to assist a theater with their playwrights reading series. Dr. Jacobson has a message that works! Like he says, just give it 90 days and see what can happen. I’m proof, and it can happen for you too!” ~ Kimberley Joy Ferren

“I read your book last night and I honestly say to you that it is excellent. Your writing is fantastic and the way you organized the concept and your ideas works really well.” ~ James Gierman

“Just finished your wonderful book on forgiveness. Tremendous. Such a hard topic to tackle. I really was impressed by your tool, The Forgiveness Diet. I am 73 years old and I agree that forgiveness is a process needed throughout the day just like sensible meals.” ~ Barbara Hall

“My mother read the book, and last week I brought her and my sister together for the first time in 3 years. It was a a lot of factors that worked, and I’m sure your book was one of them. Thank you, and continued success!” ~ Jacqueline Dunn

“My work neighbor just picked up your book from our waiting room while he waited for me to make some courtesy copies for him. He LOVES it.. borrowed it. I found him reading it in his office. His entire office is buzzing about your book. They are all impressed and amazed at the content and help. Keep up the good work.” ~ Cindy Kotler

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Watch the video, think about your anger and what it’s doing to you. Then purchase a copy of Forgive To Win! This book can change your life.

CLICK ON THIS LINK TO BUY MY BOOK, “FORGIVE TO WIN!”

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“Doing a geographic” is an expression that I believe originated in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous to describe what many alcoholics and addicts do when their lives have become unmanageable.

Rather than address the core problem which is their alcohol or drug addiction, they blame the people around them who don’t understand them, they blame unfortunate circumstances that befall them, they blame their parents, they blame bad luck, they blame God. They blame everyone and everything except themselves.

They define the problem outside of themselves and therefore they never find the solution. They think that, “If I move to another city and start over with a new job and new friends and a fresh start, my life will work and everything will get better.”

It never does. It’s a con. The alcoholic or addict will never get better and their lives will never work for them the way they’d like until they address the real problem rather than see it outside of themselves.

This is true for everyone, not just alcoholics and addicts. Most of us are blind to the source of our problems and blame other people and other things for the difficulties in our lives rather than recognizing the ways in which we are sabotaging ourselves and forever depriving ourselves of happiness and prosperity.

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Common symptoms of stress, particularly prolonged stress, are depression, anxiety, insomnia, irritability, anger, reactivity, impulsivity. Stress can affect appetite, energy levels, motivation. It can alter one’s perceptions, one’s thoughts, one’s insight and judgment. People who are stressed out just don’t think as clearly, they’re out of balance, disconnected from their higher, intuitive self. More vulnerable to a variety of illnesses, physical as well as emotional.

Stress, in general, weakens the immune system, diminishes the body’s ability to fend off illness and infection, to repair and to heal. Prolonged stress, with its dampening of the immune system, can generate headaches, muscle aches, neck and back aches, constipation, diarrhea, gastro-esophogeal reflux, ulcers. High blood pressure. Heart attacks and strokes. Stress WILL be hazardous to your health.

Stress increases one’s odds of having an accident, because stressed-out people are more easily distracted, not paying attention as best they can, such that an accident happens which otherwise might have been avoided.

If one does suffer bodily injuring secondary to an accident, one who is stressed has diminished capacity to heal and recover from it. When one’s mind and body are in good condition, the odds of recovering from a serious injury are much greater.

Last but not least, it is possible that prolonged stress weakens the immune system to such a degree that one becomes more vulnerable to tumors and cancers.

So what can be done about it?

Ideally, find ways to reduce the stress and eliminate it, if possible. Reducing the stress means recognizing what’s causing the stress, whether it be an exhausting job, financial insecurity, health problems, relationship problems. Whatever might be causing the stress needs to be acknowledged and enumerated.

The next step involves addressing these specific causes of stress in one’s life, perhaps making new decisions, perhaps taking new actions if there are indeed viable options. Make better choices and it’s possible to reduce, if not eliminate, the stressful triggers in one’s life.

Sometimes one can’t reduce or eliminate the stress. Some things are out of our control no matter what choices and decisions we make. In this case, reducing stress means reducing your reaction to stress. Finding ways to accept the difficult situation and co-exist with it, rather than having a physical or nervous breakdown.

In conjunction with trying to “change the things you can” and “accept the things you cannot change,” there are other ways to manage and cope with stress. Good nutrition is important. Eating balanced meals. Staying as far away from fast food and junk food as possible. Keeping the sugar and fat choices to a minimum. Exercising and working out can help dramatically. Meditation. Yoga. Talk therapy. Spiritual / Religious counseling. Vitamin and mineral supplements may help. Sometimes medications can help people deal with their stress. Sometimes medications are necessary, hopefully for just a brief period of time.

When people are stressed, they should avoid watching intense tv shows and movies. They should stay away from the horror, gore and violence. Watch comedies as much as possible. Laughter is healing. It does generate endorphins. Additionally, stay away from too much news. We all want to be informed. But past that, indulging in excessive viewing of the same information, the same message over and over again, is not helpful, particularly if you’re watching news about horrific things happening and yet to come.

When one is under stress, it’s best to try to “think lovely thoughts.” Think positive. Think hopeful, not pessimistic. See the glass as half-full, not half-empty. Make the decision to make lemonade out of lemons.  Be grateful for what you’ve got, despite whatever scarcity, limitation, lack or disappointment is in your life.

Try to see the silver lining in the dark clouds. Try to see the difficulties in your life as somehow blessings in disguise. Try to release judgment and attack thoughts despite what has happened to you. Try to forgive.

In stressful times, people and societies can lose their balance, their sense of purpose and intention. This is why, over the long run, it is critical, amidst the stress, fear and chaos, that we maintain as best we can our integrity, our compassion and our humanity.

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If we continually procrastinate and sabotage ourselves to the point of not getting the lives we want, we need to re-program our subconscious minds because it is not our being a victim of bad luck or some more concrete scapegoat that is getting in our way. It’s us.

When one self-improvement program, self-help-book, spiritual guru, economic guru, etc., after another has failed to deliver us our aspirations,  it behooves us to keep our Shakespeare in mind. Particularly, that “the fault, dear Brutus, lies not in the stars but in ourselves that we are underlings.”

Point being: We can be masters of our fate or victims of our fears, fantasies and foolishness. We can continue to know what we need to do and not do it, and not get where we want to go. Or we can recognize that everything we’ve tried hasn’t worked, so we best do something different.

Self-Sabotage

In order to do something different, best we know the root cause of the problem and then design a unique and effective solution.

The root cause is self-sabotage. Consciously, we want to make money, make friends, lose weight, get healthy and fit, find our soul mates and partners, and by golly we’re gonna start tomorrow morning for sure, you betcha. This time I really mean it.

New Year’s Resolutions come and go. Again and again. Year after year.  Unconsciously, our resistance to change is great and our resolve to put into practice the principles and techniques we’ve learned is weak. The resistance wins out, any attempt at establishing a habit of behaviors, a pattern of focused thoughts and exercises all devoted to the achievement of expressed goals fails sooner or later.

We’re back at step one. With another healthy dose, so to speak, of guilt, shame and self-loathing that we’ve failed another attempt to attain our goals, whatever they might be.

Why is the unconscious resistance to change so great? It’s because of what I just made reference to: guilt, shame and self-loathing. Buried deed in the unconscious mind is the belief that we are not good enough and don’t deserve abundance and success.

That core thought compels the subconscious to act in ways that creates that reality.  We experience a world which reflects that self-concept that we are not worthy. Rather than attracting success, happiness and prosperity into our lives, we attract accidents and potholes.

If this premise is correct, then we must change our core thoughts about ourselves which compel our subconscious mind to do our bidding if we are to attract the life we want without resistance, negativity, obstacles and unpleasantness.

We must rid ourselves of the unconscious guilt, shame and self-loathing. Not a simple task. Nonetheless, a worthy one. And the way to do it is to be of service to others, to engage in estimable acts towards others as best we can, without conditions, exceptions or expectations.

As we esteem others through our respect and service to help as best we can, we are esteeming ourselves and sending our subconscious the message that we are good enough. But that’s not enough. We must forgive ourselves as well if we are to eliminate the deeply submerged guilt and shame.

We Reap What We Sow

As we forgive others, which involves letting go of our harsh judgments of them, we are actually forgiving ourselves, letting go of our harsh judgments of ourselves. It’s Confucius’s Law of Reciprocity. It’s a Golden Rule sort of thing. It’s the way this world of ours works. It’s all projection. People are mirrors of our thoughts. Trust me, there’s a lot of that going around.

As we forgive others, we forgive ourselves. It’s as simple and as difficult as that. Esteem others, let go of judgments and resentments and anger, forgive others for they know not what they do, among other things, and be of service to others. We get out of ourselves.

We get out of the crazy thinking in our head which makes us feel alienated and frightened. We help others. We count our blessings.

And guess what? Things get better. Life gets better. Life has greater meaning in addition to greater clarity, direction, transformation, happiness, contentment and good fortune.

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