Anger is a signal device to inform that there is a perceived threat. In relationships, anger is used to emotionally beat up the other person. Best that anger be channeled into calm, effective communication of one’s concerns so that problems can be resolved in such a way that the needs of all parties are addressed and met.
All the candidates on both sides of the aisle tell us what they’re going to do for us. They’re going to lower taxes, and they’re going to create new jobs, and they’re going to… blah blah blah… but what they don’t tell us is what we need to do for ourselves, and what they, as leaders, should be doing as well: stop all the fear-mongering, stop all the demonizing, stop all the rageful, hate speech about those who don’t share the same beliefs. All this divisiveness is what will defeat us in the long run, not global warming, nuclear weapons, or terrorists. We are the enemy of the people when we lack tolerance and compassion, and lash out at those we disagree with. True patriotism means respecting our fellow citizens regardless of their viewpoints and beliefs.
I don’t know what your plan is for 2012, but this is my plan. Read it over and see if it makes sense to you.
OK, this year is going to be my first, full year of consciously being loving and forgiving to everyone I possibly can be, forgiving myself when I slip up, learning from my mistakes and doing better the next time. I AM happy now, but I want to be successful in all of the different areas of my life, and I now know that the way to get there is by being truly helpful to others.
The Law of Attraction doesn’t work for most people because despite what they consciously strive for, despite what thoughts they keep in the forefront of their conscious mind, despite all their proactivity, practice, persistence and perseverance, they have an unconscious program of self-sabotage that is running the game and keeping all of life’s goodies that they desire at arm’s length.
The solution to this problem is to eliminate the self-sabotaging behaviors by eliminating what’s causing them: unconscious guilt, shame, and self-loathing. How do we do this? By loving and forgiving ourselves. How do we do this? By loving and forgiving others. How do we do this? By consciously focusing on acceptance, tolerance, generosity, graciousness, gratitude, compassion, forgiveness, estimable acts of kindness and service to others.
As we engage in these behaviors as best we can, unconditionally and without exception, every day and in every way possible, we send the message to our subconscious mind that we are good enough, that we are worthy of reward not punishment, and our subconscious mind then puts an end to the inner critic that influences us to sabotage ourselves, and it directs the Law of Attraction to work for us rather than against us, and we begin to manifest the life we desire.
Many people are afraid to go after their dreams, to take action, to implement…. out of fear that they will fail, look stupid, feel shamed, and have to acknowledge that they weren’t good enough… Bottom line: You won’t know if you don’t go. Yes you may strike out and that would be painful, but you’ve got no chance of hitting a home run unless you step up to the plate. The other consideration:
Most of us don’t get what we want in our lives because we sabotage ourselves: We procrastinate. We resist. We don’t follow through. We don’t do the things that we know are in our best interests. The end result is a life of unfulfillment and disappointment. It doesn’t have to be that way. When we eliminate the guilt, shame, and self-loathing deeply-embedded in our unconscious mind which generate our self-destructive, self-defeating behaviors, our world changes for the better: We start attracting people and circumstances that cooperate with our goals and propel us towards the manifestation of all our hopes and dreams. The way to eliminate our guilt, shame, and self-loathing is to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves. The way to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves is to esteem and forgive others. Forgive To Win!’s Forgiveness Diet is a structured program that teaches us how to do this. It’s not complicated. And it works! By consistently practicing a daily regimen of thoughts, actions and exercises devoted to accepting, forgiving and being of service to others, our self-esteem increases, our self-sabotaging behaviors decrease, and we experience greater opportunities and more positive outcomes in all realms of our lives. http://amzn.to/v4Xx1q
I’ve been asked why I’m passionate about teaching forgiveness. It’s because all religious, spiritual and metaphysical roads I’ve traveled have led me here, to this one Truth borrowed from A Course In Miracles: I forgive others for my own peace of mind.
In my late twenties I read the Bible, the Old and New Testament, for the first time. Although I was impressed with the transformation of God’s consciousness from the Old Testament God of anger, judgment, vengeance and war to the New Testament God of peace, love, acceptance, charity and forgiveness, I was more impressed with the implications of several thought-provoking Biblical comments:
1. Always see the glass as half full instead of half empty. Always look for what’s positive and for the blessings in disguise.
2. Music soothes the soul. When stressed out, listen to calm and pleasing music to relax your mind and body.
3. Smile and laugh a lot. Smiling and laughter generate endorphins and promote positive feelings in others as well as oneself.
4. Devote time to inspirational reading which can uplift your spirit, increase your wisdom, elevate your energy and help put your life into healthy focus.
5. Be kind to yourself. Do nice things for yourself that are nurturing and loving to mind, body and spirit.
6. Eliminate negativity. Choose not to dwell on thoughts of envy, jealousy, judgment and resentment.
7. Keep good company. Avoid toxic people, places and circumstances.
About the author: Ellen Spencer is a blogger by profession. She loves writing on health and lifestyle. Beside this, she loves traveling and exploring new places. Recently she shared an article on parenthood.
Really cool spreecast I recorded with Dr. Aymee Coget. We talked about forgiveness, happiness, success, belief systems, ego, Forgive To Win! It’s about 35 minutes long but the time flies by. A lot of good information and passion. Check it out! Share it with a friend.
It is terribly ironic that the holidays, which is meant to be a time for celebration, joy, family, loved ones, connection, harmony and contentment, brings sadness and depression to so many people. Why is this the case? Perhaps because those who suffer from the holiday blues are seeing their world through the eyes of the past, focusing on the disappointments, the losses, the rejections, the abandonments of the past and bringing them into the present, and feeling their devastating emotional impact as if they happened yesterday.
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