“Doing a geographic” is an expression that I believe originated in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous to describe what many alcoholics and addicts do when their lives have become unmanageable.
Rather than address the core problem which is their alcohol or drug addiction, they blame the people around them who don’t understand them, they blame unfortunate circumstances that befall them, they blame their parents, they blame bad luck, they blame God. They blame everyone and everything except themselves.
They define the problem outside of themselves and therefore they never find the solution. They think that, “If I move to another city and start over with a new job and new friends and a fresh start, my life will work and everything will get better.”
It never does. It’s a con. The alcoholic or addict will never get better and their lives will never work for them the way they’d like until they address the real problem rather than see it outside of themselves.
This is true for everyone, not just alcoholics and addicts. Most of us are blind to the source of our problems and blame other people and other things for the difficulties in our lives rather than recognizing the ways in which we are sabotaging ourselves and forever depriving ourselves of happiness and prosperity.
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