by Walter E. Jacobson · Filed Under: Happiness · Inspiration · Motivation · Personal Development · Politics · Relationships · Self-Improvement · Spirituality · Success · Well-Being
The tea party movement is not something that was cooked up overnight. It is the result of many years of disappointment, anger, fear, frustration, and resentment.
Our government (more specifically, the political parties running our government, our country, and our planet into the ground) mired in waste, corruption, abuse, and selfish special interests, unresponsive to the growing anger and angst of the American people, and not taking the American people’s discontentment seriously enough to change its behavior, created a pressure cooker, of sorts, whereby the pent-up frustrations and sense of powerlessness exploded onto the political landscape in the form of a radical rather than a more moderate solution.
However positive aspects of the tea party movement may be, there are elements of its rhetoric and ideology which are aggressive, divisive, radical and reactionary in various respects, and which are, consequently, not necessarily in the nation’s best interests in the long run.
The same scenario occurs in personal relationships. If there are grievances in the relationship — with partners feeling that their needs are not being met and that there is no effective means for communication and change — anger and resentments will build to the point where extreme situations are generated which are usually impulsive, aggressive, and counterproductive to the repair and well-being of the relationship.
For example, one partner may have an affair. One partner may become emotionally or physically abusive. Accidents may happen in cars when partners are screaming at each other while driving. Accidents may occur in the home when partners are distracted and imbalanced by their stress and their anger.
It is a fact that stress and anger suppress the immune system, make people more susceptible to illness, and make it harder for people to recover from illness, all of which behooves us to consider the possibility of our pent-up anger and stress generating cancers, heart disease, and strokes.
In summary, when our relationships are suffering, best not to wait for an extreme or catastrophic development before taking action. Best not to have a crisis be our wake-up call to pay attention to the relationship.
Best we recognize problems as they develop and address grievances in an effective way such that the relationship gets stronger and endures the test of time.